Do your children run from difficulty?

Do your children run from difficulty?

When the going gets tough the tough get…?  Yeah, you remember the 80’s.  But what about those of us born in the noughties?  Do your children run from a challenge or set up to the plate?  Do they get disheartened by failure or does it bring out their determination?  We all want hardy, well developed children who reach for the stars, but what happens when your child gets stuck in failure mode and gives up?  Prof. Carol Dweck sheds some pretty brilliant light on how children can over come difficulty and learn to thrive with the power of yet.  Watch this awesome TED talk then read on to find out how we at Applause follow this growth mindset when it comes to teaching your children.

No!  Don’t read on before you’ve watch the video, it won’t make sense.  I’ll see you in 10 minutes.

Wasn’t that inspiring?  It certainly made me stop and ask myself, “Do I let children know that they are on a learning curve?  Do I make it clear that while they might not be able to do it YET, they will be able to do it soon.”  I was excited to discover that that’s what the performing arts are all about!  We don’t really give grades and certainly not pass/ fail marks to children.  Rather, we instil in them the discipline to try and try again and next time try harder through the process of rehearsal.  We explain how things get better each time you try, we don’t let children (or ourselves) quit when things get tough because we know through experience that we will push through that wall and every one will do better because of it.

This doggedness in approach builds values in children as well as confidence in their own abilities.  We share stories of how we once weren’t very good at something and then bit down and got better at it.  It helps children to know that we weren’t born with all the skills we have today.

Often we hear children cry out in rehearsals “This is HARD!”  and we always laugh and answer, “I know!  We made it that way so you can get better and then be the best.  If it’s easy, you’re not learning!”  Children always accept this answer and it’s great to now know why: “When you get a not yet grade you understand that you are on a learning curve – it gives you a path into the future.” Carol Dweck.

Give your child a future full of possibilities.  Invest in the power of “not yet.”